is an individuation
This process guides us in the
discovery of the energies that animate us. At the same time it furthers the
enfoldment of an Aware Self,
of an Inner Witness. Developing such a
and aware space”
inside us will help us to exercise free choice, enable us to build a loving
relationship with who we are, and to hold the “tension of opposites” in our
is based on the “The Psychology of Selves and of the
Aware Ego” as created and
developed by Hal and Sidra Stone, PhD., USA*. It conceives our psyche as a
Family of subpersonalities,
or Inner selves,
and teaches us to relate in a
conscious and loving way to who we are and how we feel.
is a powerful device for self-growth, a wonderful complement to any other
technique or therapeutic endeavor. It invites us to a concrete and judgment-free
experience of our psychological processes and of our dynamics in relationships.
However, it is not a therapy; it is a consciousness tool; it should not be used
as a substitute for psychiatric treatment.
teaches us an Art of living,
an Art of loving, of understanding oneself and the other; a way of entering the
Mystery of Self. We will experience ourselves as a
a volume of
where our sensations, emotions, images and thoughts, become
who respond, relate and
find their place and peace in our welcoming Awareness.
To love is to know. It is to
embrace our light as well as of our shadow. As the moon wanes and waxes and back
again, we too will travel from strength to frailty, from joy to pain, from
turmoil to silence. Each of these “forms of self”
Body of our life
and challenges us to honor it as
Love requires a
demands an incarnation, a quality of substance, an intensity of being. We can
awaken this by a sensitive, feeling relationship with ourselves, with the other,
with Nature, with Life itself. We can further it through an ongoing encounter
and sharing process that unites heart, spirit and matter; that builds on our
five senses, on our creative imagination, on the power of our love. This can be
seen as a spiritual service, a spiritual discipline, leading us to an
and acceptance of our present moment experiencing.
practice is full of spontaneity; it stages a lively face-to-face between
facilitator and client. It sends us on a Journey where we explore, discover, and
nourish all our energies. It is a dance of selves,
full of humor, of surprises, serious and yet tender, where we grow rich, not
only with what we have mastered or acquired, but also with what we ignore or
reject in ourselves!
What can we gain?
To be true; to find a lost quality of being, the bubbling aliveness that we knew
as small children¾close
to tears, close to laughter and sheer joy, close to the heart. Don’t we yearn,
deep down, to turn to our feelings, to our needs, to a meaningful life; to see
the world afresh, to recapture this early enchantment, when we were still
curious about everything?
Our work begins when we consciously experience our
personality, as it
manifests itself in our everyday life. We will access what stimulates,
enraptures, discourages, hurts or frightens us. We will learn to live with our
contradictions, to recognize the value of our resources, to balance our
strengths and weaknesses, to renew our capacity for joy and our sensitiveness.
We will translate our life situations into the physical experience of emotions,
images and thoughts. We will meet the Inner Selves
us, move us or block us, and realize why we act and react in certain ways.
As we start to draw from our inner well of Love and Wisdom,
as we relate with stability and kindness to our various
we will become our own guide, our own Spiritual
Selves will speak to us,
quiver in us, cry and become angry, impart their knowledge, share their
experience, and finally come together inside us like an Inner Tribe, an Inner
Family. As a Witness, we will step back, stand upright in the Center of who we
are, of what we go through. We will enfold a Holding,
harmonizing the infinite variety of life’s expressions inside us.
We will learn to respond to our vulnerability,
to what we lack, to the small helpless child we become when we are hurt. We will
gain maturity, autonomy, support ourselves in difficulty; create peace where
We hold in our hands the key to our universe.
When we take responsibility for ourselves, we acquire the capacity to choose our
own direction; we actively partake in our own evolution. We reduce compulsive
dependence; we stop accusing others, and start relating more consciously
You and I can open ourselves to
the most radiant adventure of love; the inner and outer adventure of
relationship, born between yourself and yourself, between one and the other,
between the Cosmic Source and our human Heart, at the core of our Being.
2017 by Adelheid Oesch
All reproduction rights reserved
and Sidra Stone
"Embracing Our Selves"
"Embracing Each-Other", New World Library CA
"Embracing Your Inner Critic", Harper and Row SF
"The Shadow King, (The Invisible Force That Holds women Back)",
New World Library CA (Sidra Stone)
"Partnering, (A new kind of relationship)", New World Library CA
Adelheid Oesch :
Within.’ One and diverse. Vol. I
Initiatory Journey from Inner Conflict to Inner Peace
Dialogue and the Aware Self
for the Child within
used in conjunction with…
Within.’ EXERCISE MANUAL. Vol. II
A Key to
Translation and editing by Richard M. McErlean, Jr.
Revised by the Author. CreateSpace 2017