Today science progressively unveils that every human being is
a cosmos; that every single cell contains a universe. Physicists propose that an
implicate order gives sense and direction to elements, that unfold and
enfold, that divide and join up into constantly renewed and significant shapes
and structures (1). In a similar way, the process of consciousness also evolves
‘through separating and connecting,’ as cells do... mysteriously ‘One and
We can experience this through ‘Voice Dialogue’
practice which gives each of our Inner selves its own place in connection
to one’s Central Awareness of them.
This inner relationship scheme and relating as such, is, for
me, the very dynamic that leads to personal evolution, and the evolution of
Contains the Parts
Aware Connection between the Whole and
By facilitating and then separating from inner
contents, we unveil an Inner vastness, the perception of a Core-beingness,
of an aware, relational and expanding Self. It underlies all what we
identify ourselves with: we suddenly experience ‘who we are’ as a flowing
organic whole; a becoming more alive, more rooted and more flexible. It helps us
transcend ‘exclusive identification’ with a specific me or Inner self.
It strengthens our ability to envision - with growing compassion and detachment
- whatever and whoever inhabits us or surrounds us. We discover what it means to
be ‘fully present to oneself ’and ‘fully present to the other,’ here and now.
This Aware self process results from practicing a
conscious identifying with, followed by a conscious dis-identifying
from… one’s mental, emotional, sensory and behavioral moves.
Relating is only complete when it brings two or more separate
elements or persons to interact in reciprocity. As long as the child is in the
womb, in a fusional state, identified with the mother, the two of them do
not yet have a relationship in its fullest mature sense. This is also a
characteristic of fusional love in primary relationships and will
likewise prevent aware self-relating as long as we are fully identified
with our Inner voices or subpersonalities.
The child's identity and individuation builds up alongside
with a progressive separation from the mother, father and family; from feeling
one in the womb, to becoming a mature, self-reliant adult. From birth on,
separation is a must, if one means to develop into an accomplished human being.
‘Conscious relating’ implies the bridging of at least two distinct units.
Observation of babies in orphanages - subjected to constantly changing
caretakers - has shown that the lack or the discontinuity… of reliable bonding
impairs their health, damages them psychically and can even lead to their death,
in spite of being bodily taken care of. A young child, a ‘responsive me,’ needs
someone who loves and mirrors it in a continuity of mutual and affectionate
connection. Emotional face-to-face relating is what sustains our growth in
heart, mind and spirit.
Biological and psychological inputs go hand in hand, reflect
each other, like twin mirrors.
My hypothesis - corroborated by my ‘Voice Dialogue’ work - is
that what proves true of consistent relating to the biological child…
will prove true of consistent bonding with one’s Inner child. And this,
whatever the wounds we carry from a distant past! Indeed - even though we are
time bound, regarding our stories and our aging - our psychical reality is
always in the now.
Our aliveness will fade and wither, problems will increase,
intimacy cannot flower, when we remain blindly identified with - and
therefore disconnected from - our Inner selves. States of ‘inner
fusion and confusion prevent conscious relating to who we are and
what we feel: we cannot see, mirror, or care for our suffering selves
as long as we remain identified with them. And consequently we will
unknowingly project them outside on oblivious recipients.
Developing an Aware Self process - by a ‘separating
out’ of our subpersonalities - will allow us to become our own Witness,
Spiritual friend and Caretaker. Getting to know our different voices /selves/energies/
from inside - via facilitation - and then stepping out of them, generates
empathy, aware self-mirroring, and gives us access to the enriching
multiplicity of our many primary, vulnerable or disowned energies. We
then realize that we can, simultaneously, relate to, encompass and transcend
whatever inhabits us.
By extension, it will help us to feel compassion for others;
to give, to share and receive in a balanced way.
A Voice, a
Feeling, a Sensation, a
Thought, a Reaction,
is Always a Person
Working with ‘Voice Dialogue facilitation’ makes one marvel
at how intensely a given voice /energy/subpersonality/
manifests as a ‘real and total being,’ despite the fact that it is only an
aspect of ourselves. A subpersonality is characterized by an age,
a sex, a time of birth, a name, a world of emotions and a mind of its own, and a
distinct energetic body. This voice-person inside us has private hopes
and fears, a life purpose, a personal experience of joys and pains and a full
potential for evolution, provided the Aware self process recognizes it
and starts to relate to it.
Again and again, when facilitating, I feel touched by the
pain, the sensitivity, the love and the presence that a subpersonality
manifests when it is deeply acknowledged and listened to. Every one of them is
in full measure an individual to be respected, to learn from, to value, to
contains the Whole
Each Human Being Contains the Universe
How can a voice, a given self, which is only a
facet among many others inside us, simultaneously cover the whole range of human
and transcendent beingness? Although man is but a minute fragment of creation,
ordinary men and women, as well as saints, philosophers, artists, scientists,
shamans, of all times and cultures, have described experiences of overall
Oneness; Oneness with the Source of Consciousness itself, with unlimited,
shining, loving reality. This was often met by distrust and strongly rejected by
sceptics, by religious fundamentalists and political powers. I think here of two
emblematic examples. I think of Christ, who claimed: ‘I
am the way, the truth, and the life.’ ‘I and the Father are
one,’ (2) and who was crucified for affirming to be the Son of God. I
think of the Persian Sufi mystic Al-Hallâdij Ibn Mansűr (c.
858 –922) who was tortured and crucified for having said: ‘Ana al
Haqq,’ ‘I am the Truth’ (3).
How does such an epiphany reflect itself in the wondrous
alchemy of our bodies, where each of our cells - though only an infinitesimal
particle of our organism - carries in its genetic code a yet unfathomed amount
of information, perhaps even the total potential and energy of life itself? Easy
to explain how the whole contains the parts; more baffling and exiting to
discover that each part might also contain the whole. This premise sheds also
some light on the following question: ‘How come that the ‘separation processes’
of Voice Dialogue don’t lead to or add to a fragmentation of the psyche?’
(4) After 25 years of personal and professional practice in this field, I can
witness to the fact that, on the contrary, conscious differentiation heals inner
division, heals disconnection from self and others, and helps to perceive
oneself as an ‘organic and pacified living whole,’ while at the same time
including all facets of inner and outer diversity.
‘Voice Dialogue,’ a New and yet Ancient Model
of Deep Relating
The mirroring process between the whole and the parts, the
parts and the whole, opens up an audacious perspective in which ‘heightened
awareness’ is a new way to relate to ourselves, to others, to the whole
universe. I here refer to an almost incredible vista, a deep knowing that we
contain every other and that every other contains us. Discovering this, in my
own flesh and energy, as a reality of my Aware self and Inner family
of voices, encourages me to believe that it may be true on a much wider
range. This is a vision of a universe birthed and upheld by Transcendent
Recognizing the Source of divine wholeness in every being, in
every manifestation - whatever our religious background or the absence of it -
can begin through the ‘Voice Dialogue’ process. There, we can acknowledge
each of our own Inner selves. Even though they may be just multiplied
‘ego-show,’ they are also our flesh and blood and totally similar to the humans
around us! Let us begin to treat our Inner selves with tenderness and
understanding; to care for them, relate to them and set them free in our aware
love; and be surprised to see how they transform into happy and trusting human
beings inside us.
‘Love thy neighbor as Thy Self,’
falls within the scope of the second commandment.
The world we perceive is a giant mirror of ourselves...
reflecting our own harmony, beauty, insights and loving deeds or, at other
times, reflecting our wounds, disharmonies, inner conflicts and value judgments.
In the latter case, Inner world and Outer world manifest as the
expression of a schizophrenic mind: white against black, right against wrong,
you against me, me against me. A wise integration of our disowned energies
amounts to a wise integration of our neighbors in areas where we reject them. It
means peace, based on acknowledgment rather than exclusion. To be a stranger no
more, an enemy no more to oneself, to befriend oneself, leads to universal
tolerance. It may demonstrate that each of us can be uniquely himself and yet
enclose and redeem every other.
The Hologram as Consciousness Model
Not only the experiences of mystics and philosophers invite
us to such insights; physicists and scientists of our time now uncover more and
more holistic models. The holographic photograph is one of them and illustrates
strikingly this relationship between the totality and the parts and - why not -
between the Aware self process and the various Inner selves.
The hologram, or three dimensional photograph, was first
discovered in 1947 by the mathematician Dennis Gabor. In 1971 he was the single
recipient of the Nobel Prize in Physics for his invention and development of the
Outlined in a simplified way, a hologram is obtained by
dividing a laser beam, so that it will interact from several angles of
reflection with a photographed object by means of a half silvered mirror. The
different ‘photographic viewpoints,’ when superposed, form a ‘model of
interference’ which will then be imprinted on a photographic plate. Illumination
of this plate, results in a three dimensional image (in full relief). The three
dimensional aspects are not just simulated for the eye. They have acquired
spatial characteristics: the picture will modify as the observer walks around
it, and so changes his position in relation to the holographic image. And if we
study a holographic image - of a leaf for example - through a microscope, we can
observe its cellular structure.
And there is even more to it! When you shatter a hologram,
each of the broken off fragments still reveals the whole image, still contains
the whole information. This shows us that possibly a total memory could
be stored in every part or fragment of matter; a memory, a wholeness that
doesn't get impaired when the parts are scattered and separated from each other.
(See 5 & 6).
Indeed, the facilitation of our voices/ subpersonaities/,
the subsequent Aware self process, the multi-angled mirroring that this
entails, unfold something akin to the holographic procedure. This gives us
challenging lines of exploration with the ‘Voice Dialogue model.’ Could
it be that each subpersonality, is not only to follow up for itself, but
also holds information concerning all other selves, mine and yours; and
that in reciprocity, our Aware self process can reflect, harbor, and at
the same time transcend, the infinite kaleidoscope of our inner and outer
universe; a holographic universe embedded in every aspect of creation and in
every single human being. Let us realize that what can heal us through relating
to our Inner family of selves, can also heal the outer world.
I would like to share my anticipation; share the hope that if
more and more people witness and practice the ‘Voice Dialogue process,’
our diversity will become a cosmic mirror that opens us up, not only towards
being fully ourselves, but also to an understanding of all voices/selves/
in our fellow-beings.
I hope we will awaken to the sense of a ‘creation wide
oneness’ that underlies and surpasses our differences, that unfolds towards
peace and transformative relating… because we embody all other human beings;
because every other being houses us. (5 & 6)
Copyright © 2017 by Adelheid Oesch
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